Birth Child Stories : Meet Ryan
Meet Ryan, one of the birth children from a Lorimer foster family. As we have been celebrating Sons and Daughters month recently, we’ve asked him a few questions about what it’s like to be a foster sibling…
What is your age and what do you like to do in your spare time?
My name is Ryan, I am almost 25 and in my spare time, I enjoy spending time with my girlfriend and going to the gym.
How did you feel when your parents first came to you to say they were thinking if fostering?
I thought it was great they wanted to help children less fortunate than myself and my brother, however, I was a little nervous about the idea of living with a stranger.
How was your experience with the assessment process? If you were interviewed, what were your thoughts?
I was interviewed and found it interesting, the process was quite simple for me.
Can you recall that first experience of a foster child coming to live with you? How did you feel before and after? Was it at all like you expected?
It was a little awkward at first getting used to having a new person coming to live in your home and getting used to there habits ect. Became comfortable fairly quickly.
“I thought it was great they wanted to help children less fortunate than myself and my brother, however, I was a little nervous about the idea of living with a stranger.”
How do you feel now about fostering? Have your feelings/thoughts changed about it?
We have only had one placement so far and he is still with us 2yrs on. He’s very laid back so that has definitely made it easier for us as a family.
What are the challenges of being part of a family that fosters?
Being respectful to each others needs and personal space. Getting used to their habits has been interesting too.
What are the positives of being part of a family that foster?
It’s rewarding knowing you’re helping someone who hasn’t had the best start in life.
What advice would you give to other birth children that are currently going through the assessment process with their parent’s to become a foster family?
I would suggest they remember that they feel as awkward as you when they first come as they too have to get used to your habits and way of living.
When the time is right, would you consider becoming foster carers yourself?
Perhaps once I’m settled I might.