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Helping Children Cope With A Big Change In The Family

Posted on 15th June 2018 by

Family life doesn’t always run smoothly. Now and then you are presented with an unexpected event or occurrence. Sometimes, that may be a testing time for your children. A big change in the family doesn’t always mean bad news. Children may be unsettled with even the smallest changes in your family dynamic. Whether this is a sudden loss, tragic news or a newborn family member, helping children cope through these times can be challenging. Here are some techniques for providing your children with the right love and support through testing times.


Helping Children Cope By Encouraging Them To Open Up

Some children have a naturally open disposition. Often they will feel happy to talk with you about their day and what’s making them happy, or sad. However, for a lot of children, particularly foster children, they can find it hard to talk about difficult subjects. Creating a friendly, open, and honest family environment may encourage them to talk about what’s upsetting them and how they’re coping with any big changes in the family.


Quality Family Time

Spending time with family is crucial for your child’s social awareness and happiness. It can also be a positive source of support when it comes to helping children cope with a trauma. Engaging in activities such as family day trips, activities in the garden or playing with other children can make a child feel secure and stable in their home environment. It will enable them to develop strong relationships which may make them feel more comfortable in talking about their concerns and feelings.


Communicating With School

Making the school aware that your child may be more delicate than usual is an important step in helping children cope. The school will then be able to provide specialist support and help if the child begins to feel upset during the school day. In addition, it may be a good idea to make other parents aware, especially if your children often play with theirs. They will then be able to ensure their children are particularly sensitive to your child’s feelings.


Helping children cope with a big change in the family can be one of the most difficult parts of being a parent. Knowing the right actions to take and the right advice to give can be stressful. Hopefully these techniques will equip you with better skills for helping your children cope. For further support you can always contact us if you need any help.


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