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Getting Children to Talk about their Feelings

Posted on 2nd May 2023 by

As parents and caregivers, we all want our children to grow up healthy and happy. A key component of emotional health is being able to express and understand one’s own feelings. Unfortunately, many children struggle to communicate their emotions effectively. Here are some strategies for getting children to open up and talk about their feelings.

Getting Children to Talk about their Feelings

Create a safe and supportive environment

Children are more likely to share their feelings if they feel safe and supported. It is important to create an environment where children feel comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgement or criticism. One way to do this is by actively listening and validating their feelings, even if you don’t agree with them.

Use open-ended questions

Instead of asking closed-ended questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no, try using open-ended questions that encourage children to elaborate. For example, changing “Are you upset?” to “Can you tell me more about how you’re feeling?”, will encourage a more detailed response.

Use age-appropriate language

It is important to use language that is appropriate for a child’s age and level of understanding. Use simple words and concepts for younger children, and gradually introduce more complex language as they get older. It’s also important to avoid using overly negative or emotional language when discussing difficult topics.

Model emotional expression

Children learn by example, so it’s important to model healthy emotional expression. Share your own feelings, and demonstrate how to express them in a calm and respectful way. For example, instead of yelling or getting angry, try saying “I’m feeling frustrated right now” and then explaining why.

Incorporate play and art

Many children find it easier to express their feelings through play or art rather than words. Incorporate activities such as drawing, painting, or playing with dolls or action figures to help your child process and communicate their emotions.

Be patient and persistent

It can take time for children to feel comfortable sharing their feelings, especially if they are not used to doing so. Be patient and persistent in your efforts, and keep encouraging them to express themselves. If your child is resistant, try not to push too hard, but instead offer support and understanding.

In conclusion, helping children to express and understand their emotions is an important part of promoting emotional health and wellbeing. By creating a safe and supportive environment, using open-ended questions, modelling healthy emotional expression, incorporating play and art, and being patient and persistent, we can help children to develop the skills they need to communicate their feelings effectively. If you are concerned about your child’s emotional health, don’t hesitate to seek the support of a professional.

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