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Spending Mother’s Day with Foster Children

Posted on 12th March 2021 by

Mother’s Day can be extremely difficult for some foster children out there. There can be times where the day itself can bring back negative memories for them. Some may not see the significance as well. In turn, this experience can sometimes be uncomfortable to you; the Foster Carer, but it does not have to be this way. Here are some options to aid you and your foster children through the day.

Spending Mother's Day with Foster Children: Woman and Child

Quality Time Together

Your foster children need a stable figure in their lives, and you may be the closest thing they have. So, try spending some quality time with them. Ask them if there is something they would like you to do together. The fact you have shown that you care and spent time with them will mean a lot. This may help to create some positive memories of the day for them too.

Celebrate their Birth Mother

If they have unfortunately lost their birth Mother, or struggle with the lack of her presence in their lives; perhaps celebrate the birth Mother’s life. This can be done through activities such as gifting flowers, writing a letter or helping them curate a memory book. It may help for a foster child to let out their emotions, and it will be comforting for them to know they are not completely alone either. It is important to reassure them that it is normal to feel sad as well, which can help them through the healing process.  

Giving them Space

For some foster children, the day itself might be quite difficult. It can even be a confusing time for them, and it is important you give them some personal space too. You do not need to distance yourself completely from them. Just let them know that you are there, and listen to their concerns. In time, they will open up to you when they are ready.

There is no Right or Wrong

Of course, these tips may not be generalised to every family. What may work for others, may not work for you. Some of these activities may be hard to repeat every year, and that is normal. Celebrating Mother’s Day can be a challenge; so set some limitations on what works for you and respect your foster children’s boundaries too. It is important to let your loved ones know about the significance of Mother’s Day for your foster children, so they are not being insensitive. Inclusion is the key, not distance.

Mother’s Day with Foster Children

Although Mother’s Day may seem a difficult feat when you foster a child, it will help to give praise and compliment your foster children in being strong. As long you know you are doing the best you can, give yourself a pat on the back! When your foster children look back n their later lives, they would have appreciated the efforts you have made.

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